How To Make Love To The Woman You Love Before Her Mastectomy By admin | December 13, 2016 - 3:15 am |December 13, 2016 MRI It doesnt matter what age a woman is when she hears the words Youve got breast cancer. It doesnt matter how she heard the news, or to some degree how bad her specific diagnosis is; the night before a womans surgery will arrive. And before the surgical scrub that you do to clean yourself off with in preparation of the surgery, making love to your partner is on many couples minds. For the partners of these women, whats important to us? Whether you have weeks or days prior to this event, many women believe that, on some level, this time will be a last time in their minds. The last time when everything was normal. Even if she didnt think that she had curvy, sensuous, perky, perfect breasts, in some ways they were always the most obvious part of her bodys femininity. What other sexual organs did you dress up? This part of your body was as visible as you wanted it to be, or the girls could be cozily hidden under a flannel nightie if it was the middle of winter and everyone just wanted to be comfy. Her sexy bra was purchased and selected to be worn to hold little pieces of lace together to show rather than tell what she hoped your admirer was fantasizing about. It usually could be unhooked and taken off with incredible speed if needed. Many women also have “get lucky” underclothing. The perfect bra and panties stories that gets happily nested in the super pleasurable centers of our brains (where I think old ladies go to when you see them and they have an especially happy look on their faces). Or our breasts can be covered up with an equally sexy sports bra that communicates Im healthy, active and ready for adventure. Making love for most couples has always involved our breasts. Didnt foreplay come from making it to second base when we were teenagers? Didnt undressing, often from the top down, signal that the best was about to come? Didnt having our blouses opened, our jeans or PJs shimmied off, get both of us more and more in the mood? As a love partner, you must be thinking, do I touch them nowthe samemoreor act like they are no big deal? Does she want to hear how you have always loved her breasts? Does she want to hear how you remember a specific time in the past that it was all about her boobs? Should this time be about ignoring that tomorrow is coming and not acting differently from whatever pattern of love making that makes both of you smile and feel loved? Or should it be as intense and sexy as you can make it? Or should it be tender, as in a planned goodbye? If there was ever a time to hone in on both peoples unspoken cueswhat you both have learned to treasure more intimately over the time you have been togetherthis would be the time to be extra sensitive and open to what feels right to the other person. This event will be traversed more from a feelings perspective than from over thinking. Both people have angst, both people have the desire to make this time uniquely perfect. Maybe not perfect as in this night was the best sex ever but perfect so that this transition time in your relationship, has the potential to be like the first time you made love. Poignant, filled with the paradox of the unknown and yet the very familiar, resides in some eventual forever place in our brains. No advice on how to make it perfect. The only advice is to not ignore that this is a last of something in her life and in yours. But from lasts, come new firsts. Just dont ignore that this is a big day and the easiest way to make it not painfully unforgettable, is to acknowledge that in some verbalor non verbal way, this time is different. What its like after, Ill let you know. Read more: http://thoughtcatalog.com/sydney-mathieu/2016/12/how-to-make-love-to-the-woman-you-love-before-her-mastectomy/ Share on FacebookShare on TwitterShare on Google+Share on Pinterest Related Post What it’s like to survive cancer, by those w... Mother With Breast Cancer Announces Last Day Of Br... How Two Best Friends Turned a Breast Cancer Battle... ‘Go smoke free. Stay pretty the health camp... Tagged breast cancer, Love, Making Love, Marriage, mastectomy, sex. Bookmark the permalink.